To many people out there the word ‘introvert’ connotes a negative meaning but this shouldn’t be so. Introverst are just not everybody’s idea of a jovial, outgoing, social person but doesn’t mean they do not have their superb qualities.
Many introverts started from being shy kids and then metamorphosed to lonely adults and most times are seen as unfriendly, rude, party killers etc.
If you’ve got an introvert as a co-worker then doesn’t mean you can’t get along with them and actually enjoy working with them. Co-existing with an introvert in the workplace is mostly about understanding them.
Here are some tips to better understand an introvert and work better with them
1. Silence is Normal
That an intorvert is silent and quiet doesn’t mean they are in a bad mood or distressed or anything close to that. When an introvert is alone or even with a few people she generally doesn’t talk unless talked to. So that doesn’t necessarily mean she is feeling bad. To an introvert not babbling excitedly or talking non-stop is normal.
So don’t push an introvert who doesn’t appear to be talking or make them feel uncomfortable for not doing some talking when they are with you.
2. Introverts Don’t Hate Other People
That an introvert may not be inclined to laugh and joke with anybody doesn’t mean he hates them. For an introvert it is always more about introspection and while they may not clearly show too much enthusiasm in relating with others at work it doesn’t mean they hate people.
3. All Introverts are Shy
Shyness is so often confused with introversion that the two words are frequently used interchangeably. However this is not true as there are many people who are introverted but not shy eg Bill Gates. Such people can easily hold their own in public appearances. Sophia Dembling, author of The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World explains the difference between shyness and introversion. According to her shyness has more to do with discomfort and anxiety in situations involving social interaction while being introverted is commonly defined as recharging and gaining energy through alone time. Many introverts are not shy; they may be confident and at ease with people but simply require more alone time to balance out the energy they expend in social situations.
4. Introverts Don’t Make Good Leaders
According to a research by USA Today nearly four out of every 10 top executives pass as introverts. Research has found that individuals of both personality types (introverts and extroverts) can make good leaders. Many introverts excel in roles that involve leading others prominent among them include Gandhi, Bill Gates and Abraham Lincoln.How to Work Best With Introverts; What You Need to Know About Them by Paul